Day 29 - 360 days
Updated: Feb 2
Day 29 – Monday 1st February 2021
Non-essential purchases: none
Weight: 66.5 kg – 4.3 kilos in 29 days
Calories: Under 1200 calories
Alcohol: none (day 29 of 29)
Exercise: 60-minute walk. 29-minute yoga. 19-minute yoga.
I had the Monday blues today and am feeling weary. I have just booked 4 nights away for Easter – will take little Tiney-Boppa away and Al will be joining me. Will also take the kids out of school for a couple of nights maybe next month. Got that weary feeling that is telling me I need a break. I have been working on my online print store and it has been a big job. So proud of myself though that it is up and running. Now to spend the next 6 weeks uploading images!
There should be fewer shoulds.
A 360-days musing......
One thing that we need less of is the word should. I have no idea why we think it is acceptable to tell someone what they should be doing before we have even listed to why it is they are doing what they are doing. We are so busy saying oh you should do this, that our ears are closed and the only person we are listening to is ourselves. We should remove should from our vocabulary.
I made a classic arrogant should mistake this week. Archie and Rissie have spent a year planning for their bedroom renovations and it took them a couple of weeks to get their rooms to where they are now. Archie is still waiting for his bed and mattress due to an online shopping blunder. I was lying in his room the other day and I told him that he ‘should’ rearrange his room to better suit the Queen bed that is on its way. The look on his face cut me to the core. He had mapped out his room and planned where each piece of furniture was going to go. He was so proud of it and instead of me taking that on board, treasuring it, and letting him know how proud I was of him, I was telling him that he should be doing something different.
I had the best intentions but I made no effort to understand what Archie needed me to say. The only thing he needed me to say was that it looked great. And if he needs to rearrange his room because the bed is too big for the spot he has designated for it, then he will work it out.
I don’t know when we all became so arrogant that we think our way is the best way, that we think we know best. How can we know best when we seemingly stopped listening years ago.
One more thing the world needs less of is the word should.