Putting the kibosh on goals and vision boards
Updated: Jul 21
I was catching up with my lovely and talented friend Kylie (check her out at Peakvue Studio) last week and we were shooting the breeze about things that annoyed us. Kylie was reminiscing about her former profession as a teacher and how she used to hate that moment when it was time in the curriculum for her young charges to write down what their goals were. I told her that I loathed goals as well and that I remember vividly last year when the kids had to write down some short-term and long-term goals. That little project ended up with Rissie wailing and asking me why she couldn’t just write down that she wanted to be happy. I agreed and I told her to make her goals up so she had something to submit and then to forget about it and just continue focusing on being happy.
I am not a fan of obsessing about the future. When someone tells you to imagine your future and create a vision board of the life you would like to create, it makes me want to scream. It does not make sense to me to continually focus on the future when the present is the gift you have in your hands right now. Why not tell someone to create a vision board of their life as it is and include everything that they are grateful for.
Over the last few weeks, I have been asked on a couple of occasions what my plans are for the gallery. I don’t understand that type of question and respond that I have no plans and I am just enjoying each day as it happens. Why is there this need to constantly strive for more with seeming little respect for people who are happy and content with the life they are living right now?
There is nothing wrong with having a fitness goal, a health goal, a holiday goal or a general life improvement goal. It is when people talk about entirely different lives, monetary goals and appear to have an absence of gratitude for what they have now, that I get frustrated.
Life is unbearably short and we can’t predict what is around the corner. Whether it be death, diagnosis, drought, fire, flood or pandemic, we don’t know what is around the corner. If we don’t know what is around the corner, how can we possibly have unflexible goals?
I don’t want to get to the end of my life thinking that I was so busy making a living that I did not live. I don’t want to be so busy worrying about tomorrow, that I never appreciated the gift of the present. I don’t want to have a goal that is set in stone and I certainly don’t want to value my life by how much I earn.
I am a big believer in the only way that I can ever teach the kids anything, is by putting my money where my mouth is and showing them what I would love them to learn. By putting the kibosh on goals and vision boards, my focus is on the here and now, the magic of the moment, travelling roads without knowing the destination and being grateful for all the gifts that are in my life.
I want to chase the sunrise and by that, I know I need to look to the east. That is about as specific as it gets, regardless of what happens tomorrow, I can keep looking east while savouring every moment of the glorious adventure that is life. Forever chasing sunrises, looking east and being open to everything that happens along the way. You can’t plan that.